Anyway, we got married on the 8th December 2012. It wasn’t a big or elaborate affair, just sweet, simple and small. I managed to find an absolutely lovely marriage officer whose name is Nigel Levings. He kept the “ceremony” uncomplicated, fresh and friendly. He also gave us some amazing vows that seemed to fit us just perfectly.


I Victoria/Jeffrey take you Jeffrey/Victoria to be my husband/wife, my best friend, my lover, my faithful partner and my other half from this day forward. I will cherish our union and love you more with each passing day. I will trust you, accept you and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, care for you and protect you. I promise to love you a little more when we are strained, and to celebrate life well with you in the good times. I promise always to give you all of my heart.

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This is just a quick email to say thank you for your wonderful service on our wedding day. It was great that you dressed to the theme and gave us vows to go with our very different wedding (still can’t believe that our guests had to sing me down the aisle haha!) Enjoy your day and keep well.



I do not love you as if you were salt-rose,
or topaz,
or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off.
I love you as certain dark things are to be loved,
in secret, between the shadow and the soul.
I love you as the plant that never blooms
but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers;
thanks to your love a certain solid fragrance,
risen from the earth, lives darkly in my body.
I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.
I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;

so I love you because I know no other way than this:
where I does not exist, nor you,
so close that your hand on my chest is my hand,
so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep.

Pablo Neruda


We just wanted to say a massive THANK YOU for presiding over our wedding.


Your words were incredibly special to us, and the vows were simply amazing. You seemed to get us and our personalities spot on. We cannot thank you enough for the ceremony and for the wonderful messages you gave us all. We had so many people come up to us after the ceremony and comment on just how fantastic it was. Your humour, the message, the length of the ceremony, and the vows were so well received by all.


Thanks once again

Greg and Michanne Kanes